Sometimes we learn what we’re not taught.
That’s the thought that would underline the gist of my talk tonight. Where in the world do kids learn how to lie deliberately? No mum in the right mind would ever mistake to teach her kids things immoral.
My little nephew about the age of 6, came to my room in dire need of help with his homework. I say ‘dire’ because he was itching to kill countless minutes of his precious childhood playing Dragonvale. (Admittedly, I squander valuable time in that game too. :p) I told him to get started while I went about my business for some time. Upon getting back, he sprung up with his hands ready to nab the iPad; he claimed to have finished reading his book and obliged me to sign the paper as formality. I was in no doubt. Until..
Me: What’s the title of the book again? I need to write it on the paper.
Nephew: It’s there! *points at the book*
Me: I know it’s there, what’s the title? ( gets strongly suspicious)
Nephew: I forgot.
Me: *doubtful stare-down*
Me: Aunt Jessie.
Nephew: *smiles cheekily*
Now whether he told his folks about it as I instructed him to, is not important. But the thing that baffles me the most is how in such fresh age of mind did he acquire the knowledge to lie. As much as I don’t want to brush off the topic of biological determinism for the sake of sociological irritation. It seems to me that our innate sinfulness is ripe right from the start of our existence.
I’m not going to front. I’ve mastered the art of deceit to a certain degree that I’m capable of smoothly winging through and around concrete truth. Everyone does. But it would be nonsensical for mature individuals to condone such practices. And we don’t usually pass our untruthful habits off. Children will find their access to dishonesty regardless. Now there could be countless sociological reasons as to why. But I’m going to leave it as such.
It’s just mental to witness the early roots of our disgrace evident even in a childhood frame.
We’re born bad, but to be bad is a choice, and to be saved is grace.